my girl anjali just shared this cool article with me about The Obamas’ Marriage
and we agree, they represent the kind of relationship we’d each want to have. beautiful, respectable and powerful (does it get any better?). this brings to mind my second favorite couple in america right now:
the obamas and jayonce are two of the hottest power couples on the block. what i love most about them is the fact that each person holds their own. relationship aside, each individual is independent and accomplished within him/herself. this is what i look for in all my relationships–the potential to challenge each other and grow. too often, young romances surrender independent needs and dreams for the sake of “being together”. and i hate that “you complete me” bullshit. if you don’t know who you are outside of a relationship, then you can never fully know yourself inside of one. it’s more like, “you make me [even] better.”
if you know me, you’ll know that i love to grind. and i love to constantly push for new heights. so don’t expect to see me at last year’s party. i used to be on that super miss independent tip (i still am!), where it was like, “damn, no time for relationships. this time is all about ME ME ME.” no time for distractions. but i think it’s too often that super ambitious people forget that while dreams are necessary, human affection and companionship ain’t so bad either. haha. and we forget that these things are important in life too. i used to say to myself, “let me put off romance until i’m 35, because that’s when i’ll be ready.” but what if i never reach 35? then that would suck. i used to think the two weren’t possible together, but now i do believe they are…it’s a balancing act. because the truth is, i’ll never stop chasing my dreams. because even as i get closer, i’m just gona build new ones to keep reaching for. so a romantic road dawg would make the journey all the more exciting.
don’t get it twisted… i still get love, just not always romance 😉 i’ve kind of kept it that way for a while though. and people are always askin, “damn, WHAT do you look for in a guy?” all i gota say is… if you’re not doing something for yourself, you’re not doing enough for me.